Being single on Valentine’s Day is one thing; but being single and heartbroken is quite another. I can still remember my first Valentine’s Day after my divorce. There were no cards, flowers, candy, jewelry, or nice restaurants.
All I had left were thirty years of Valentine memories that I somehow wished I could forget. No matter how hard I tried the memories kept haunting me.
I wasn’t ready to face the holiday that is dedicated to romance, love, and soulmates all by myself. There would just be the subtle reminders of happy couples holding hands, roses, flowers, and happiness everywhere I looked.
When your heart has been broken you are more likely to stay home, isolate yourself and cry your eyes out. That is exactly what I did! That’s right I threw myself a huge pity party. I allowed myself to drown my sorrows in the memories of the past. Even worse I imagined my ex-husband now taking his girlfriend to the nice romantic restaurant and bringing her the card, flowers, candy, and the gift.
The following Valentine’s day I vowed to do things differently. It was time to let go of all the old memories and create a new story. Therefore, I decided to write a new story of how I wanted to celebrate Valentine’s Day. One that would be fun and get me excited!
There is an Abraham Hicks Process known as scripting that I often teach my coaching clients.
YOU CAN USE THE SCRIPTING PROCESS WHEN YOU WANT TO:
- Deliberately create your experiences.
- Get more specific about your desires.
- Have the thrill of writing what you would like to experience and then seeing how the Universe delivers what you described.
- Consciously experience the power of your focused thoughts.
- Create your day in advance (you can script every part of your day or just a segment of it.)
DIRECTIONS FOR DOING THE SCRIPTING PROCESS:
You are the writer and you can literally script and decide exactly how you want your Valentine’s day to go. You are the main character and get to choose the people, events, places and experiences as you would like them to play out.
As a special gift for yourself I suggest purchasing a very nice new journal. Because after you do this process you may want to start scripting and journaling more often.
Ask yourself the following questions
1. What could I do that would make me feel good?
2. How can I show self-love to myself?
3. How would I like to celebrate this day?
4. What new special memory would I like to create?
5. Is there something special I have always wanted to do?
Then close your eyes and visualize for about ten minutes exactly how you would like your Valentine’s Day to play out. Take your journal and begin to write the perfect day planned just for you.
Where are you? What beautiful things do you see around you? Who is with you? Are you alone, with family, or friends? What fun activities are you doing? What are you smiling and laughing about? What does the air smell like? What time of day is it? What is the weather like? How do you feel? What are you grateful for?
After you have completed creating your special day. Write a thank you note to God and universe expressing your gratitude for the beautiful gift of the Valentine’s Day you just received.
For a free Valentines Gift from me to you, go to my website and download your copy of 30 Days to Greater Self Love.
Leslie Welch, CDC, CHCC, LOA
Certified Divorce, Career & Life Coach